Anxiety in Relationships
Counseling That Helps
Learn How to Stop Overthinking and Strengthen Connection
Even in healthy relationships, anxiety can create tension, confusion, and emotional exhaustion. You may find yourself overanalyzing conversations, fearing abandonment, or questioning your worth in the relationship—no matter how much reassurance you receive. It can feel like your thoughts are stuck in overdrive and your emotions are always on edge.
At Minisink Psychology, we help individuals understand the roots of their relationship anxiety and learn tools to feel more secure, balanced, and connected. Through evidence-based therapy approaches like CBT, DBT, and ART, we support you in working through patterns that may be keeping you stuck—and help you build stronger relationships, starting with the one you have with yourself.
Signs You May Be Experiencing Relationship Anxiety
Relationship anxiety doesn’t always show up as panic or conflict. Often, it takes subtler forms—like constantly needing reassurance, worrying that you’re too much or not enough, or replaying conversations and text messages in your head long after they’ve happened. You might fear your partner will lose interest or leave, even when there’s no clear reason to think that.
Vulnerability might feel unsafe, or you may find yourself pulling away emotionally. It’s also common to feel unworthy of love or affection, to struggle with jealousy, or to compare yourself to others. Even when nothing is “wrong,” trusting your partner can still feel difficult. This kind of anxiety can affect all types of relationships—whether you’re dating, in a long-term partnership, or navigating close friendships. While it often stems from earlier experiences, it doesn’t have to control the way you connect now.
How Therapy Helps
We work with you to understand what’s behind your anxiety and provide support that’s grounded, encouraging, and practical. Therapy often includes identifying past experiences or attachment patterns that may be influencing your current fears. You’ll learn how to self-soothe and manage emotions in the moments that feel most triggering, and we’ll work together to challenge and reframe anxious thoughts about your partner or the relationship itself.
We also focus on strengthening communication skills, setting healthy boundaries, and rebuilding trust in your own instincts and emotional cues. Our approach is never about blame—it’s about helping you feel more secure in who you are so you can show up in relationships with clarity, confidence, and compassion.
What Makes Our Approach Different
Anxiety in relationships isn’t just a communication issue—it’s a nervous system issue. That’s why we use neuroplasticity-informed methods that help you shift not just your thoughts, but your internal reactions. Over time, therapy supports your ability to feel safe in closeness, express your needs clearly, and respond instead of react.
Serving Clients Across Bergen County, NJ and Beyond
We work with adults, teens, and families — in person and online. Whether you live in Ridgewood, Hackensack, Teaneck, Paramus, or nearby, our practice is here to help you take that first step.
Who This Therapy Is For
We support individuals in all types of relationships—whether you’re dating, in a committed partnership, or somewhere in between. This includes people who feel overwhelmed by jealousy, fear of rejection, or emotional distance, as well as adults working to heal from past relationship trauma.
We also work with those who’ve been labeled as “too sensitive,” “too clingy,” or “hard to connect with,” and anyone who’s ready to break patterns of self-doubt or emotional shutdown. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety in the early stages of dating or feel stuck in cycles of conflict or disconnection in a long-term relationship, we help you build the insight and skills you need to strengthen connection—without losing yourself in the process.
Lasting Improvements in Anxiety, Depression, Moods, and Functioning
Work with your brain’s natural ability to heal and adapt
Neuroplasticity is your brain’s ability to form new connections, break old patterns, and adapt over time. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, trauma, constant worries, anger, or emotion dysregulation, neuroplasticity is the engine behind lasting change.
Regulate thoughts and emotions
Modify our thoughts to be more in line with reality
Rewire emotional responses to memories
At Minisink Psychology & Psychotherapy, we provide professional and empathic evidence-based psychotherapy to help you navigate life’s challenges and strengthen your inner resilience.
Meet Our Therapists
Suzannah Espinosa, PhD
